Saturday Morning Thoughts.

Good morning,

I’m sitting here munching stale gluten free chex oatmeal for breakfast because my doctor says my cholesterol is high and so…oatmeal.

Because… FIBER

I decided today is the day i get back to my blog and why not while I choke this stuff down?

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yummy.

It would be better if it weren’t over a year old.

Homeschool year 2015-2016 is DONE.

Paperwork is signed, sealed, and delivered.

Finito.

I have a month to our summer school session to rest on my laurels.  (love that saying, but i imagine my niece with that name being sat on and thats no good)

Except actually I don’t because I have more school planning, our wedding to put together, kids to manage and that green stuff to try to earn.

Weddings are much more complicated than they should be.  So far we have clothing,  flowers, wedding party people, musicians, photographer, cake and catering sorted.

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This leaves us with figuring out the ceremony, vows, what the musicians will actually play,  getting rings, printing programs, determining schedule day of, finishing booking hair and makeup, settling on what shots the photog (friend of the groom) will take, and countless endless other considerations most of which have fallen to me.  Mostly, to just me. It all involves talking to people, many of them strangers.

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If I had a time machine I would travel back in time to 8 months ago and whisper to my sleeping self “justice of the peaaaaaaaaaaaaaaace. thats what you waaaaant”

(no I would not warn a conscious me, because I know me,  I would have stolen the time machine from me and would still be sorting out the headache of endless paradox)

I’m happy and grateful that both Kevin (fiance guy i keep mentioning) and I will have family and friends to share the day with. It’s just…

sigh.

Anyway, my poor blog has just sat.

Drat.

I’ve been thinking about the blog, and what direction I should take it.

I question what the point of this blog actually is,

To reach people? – only a handful of people read it. I just don’t have the traffic save for some extremely popular autism posts.

To develop my writing skills?  eerrr well, thats been sucking lately huh?

and what it is actually about

autism? homeschooling? nature? randomness?

People come here for my autism tagged posts but my subscribers are mostly home-schoolers.  I’m preaching to the choir concerning home learning and I don’t think any of my ideas concerning autism acceptance are new or all that groundbreaking.

Is it an autism parenting blog?

I hesitate to describe our lives in too much detail because bloggers (no matter how positively) who focus on their children or loved ones autism or other various struggles, leave me with a bad taste. There are some well known bloggers out there that are all about neurodiversity, acceptance, positivity, etc, who I feel put WAY to much information on the web that is a disservice to their child. Often the children do have a say concerning it, but I question if they fully realize what they are consenting to. It is a difficult line.

This is why it is rare for me to relate a personal anecdote and why I will never blog about a tantrum or private conversation, or even specific incident concerning them.

 

so yeah, I dunno.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Robert De Niro, Wakefield, and the autism conversation

Morning,

I hope that all of my Christian readers are enjoying their Easter holiday.

De Niro and the facts behind the Wakefield Drama

By now most if not all in the autism community have heard about Robert De Niro’s thwarted plan to screen and therefore give some credibility to Andrew Wakefield’s “documentary” VAXXED. He defended his initial decision saying:

“Grace and I have a child with autism,” he wrote, referring to his wife, Grace Hightower De Niro, “and we believe it is critical that all of the issues surrounding the causes of autism be openly discussed and examined. In the 15 years since the Tribeca Film Festival was founded, I have never asked for a film to be screened or gotten involved in the programming. However this is very personal to me and my family and I want there to be a discussion, which is why we will be screening VAXXED.”

Not long after this statement he screened the film with festival organizers and “scientists”and then pulled the film stating:

“We do not believe it contributes to or furthers the discussion I had hoped for.”

I’m glad he took a second look and had a second thought.

A Matter of Opinion

What irks me most about De Niro’s statement is that he thought having an autistic kid factored into the rightness or his decision. I’m quite certain the matter is a personal one to him,

BUT

Robert De Niro could have fifteen autistic kids and the diagnoses himself and it doesn’t make the previous decision any less irresponsible.

I think that giving validity to a disproved theory and the conspiracy theories it generates is dangerous and does not contribute to any discussion that benefits persons on the spectrum nor the public as a whole.

Yet I don’t want people  take my opinion as gospel because we happen to have diagnoses and so our own experiences with the condition.

The facts speak to the reality of and fallout from Wakefield’s “work.”

The facts of the circumstances, the scientifically proven (or disproved as the case may be) information is always  better than the anecdote, opinion, or other individual experience regardless of who is sharing it.

At time perspectives can help us understand ourselves, other parents, and our children better but they don’t beat facts.

Should we still be having This conversation?

As for the  “conversation” De Niro wants to have,  it’s been sidetracked by Wakefield’s nonsense and endless cause/cure theories far too long.

Let’s look at some more facts:

Can we have a conversation about any of that?

Better yet

CAN WE DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT?

How about shifting from focusing on cause and cure to SUPPORT of  the 68 million (CDC) people on this planet diagnosed with autism?

April is autism charity “awareness” money beg month.

Money that is spent primarily in research with little going to actual support.

Can we try for something better?

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Michael Savage, Autism, Donald Trump and the truth

Like a cockroach that just won’t die, this “news” though it started circulating months ago,  has crept out from the crevices behind the toilet to horrify people anew:

“Donald Trump plans to appoint a radio host who has spoken poorly of autistic children as NIH director.”

Seriously? When I heard it I was horrified.

So I researched it.

It’s problematic if not outright false.

Let’s look at the facts of the matter.

Fact one:

Michael Savage is a conservative right wing radio show host.

Michael Savage it also an asshat.

He has in fact said that autism
“is an over diagnosed medical condition. In my readings, there is no definitive medical diagnosis for autism.” As well as that  “99 percent of the cases” of autism were a result of lax parenting. He told his audience: “They don’t have a father around to tell them, ‘Don’t act like a moron. You’ll get nowhere in life.'” Among the other admonitions he felt children with autism should be hearing, he said, were: “‘Straighten up. Act like a man. Don’t sit there crying and screaming, idiot.'”

Fact two:

Donald Trump is an asshat.

We could get into why but ya know, the evidence as to why is overwhelming, and those who can’t see it, wont be swayed by me.

In regards to autism he has implied a link between vaccination and autism though those theories have been disproved.

Fact three:

Michael Savage when interviewing Trump expressed interest in becoming head of the NIH. (National Institute of Health)

Fact four:

There is no evidence that either one was being in the least bit serious and NO official statement to that effect has been made.

None.

Want to know more?

Here is the Snopes page concerning it.

 

 

To Be “Normal”

To be or not to be, Normal?

As a writer for Quora I answered questions primarily for autism and mental health topics.
One question, I don’t remember it exactly but, it went something like:
“Should people with mental disorders wait until they are normal again to have relationships?”
I wasn’t in the mood for a nuanced argument that day, and began my answer with:
“I’m not “normal” and I never will be.”
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He didn’t like my answer, to put it mildly.  He was simply astounded I wouldn’t  want to be normal nor have any shame that I wasn’t.

“Normal” is a 19th century idea brought to you by this dude:

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  An out of work astronomer by the name of Quetelet
He decided to take data collected in censuses and surveys (also 19th century inventions) and apply the mathematics of astronomy to the data in order to determine averages.
Astronomers believed that every individual measurement of a celestial object (such as one scientist’s measurement of the speed of Saturn) always contained some amount of error, yet the amount of aggregate error across a group of individual measurements (such as many different scientists’ measurements of the speed of Saturn, or many different measurements by a single scientist) could be minimized by using the average measurement. In fact, a celebrated proof by the mathematician Carl Gauss appeared to demonstrate that an average measurement was as close to a measurement’s true value (such as the true speed of Saturn) as one could ever hope to get. Quetelet applied the same thinking to his interpretation of human averages: He declared that the individual person was synonymous with error, while the average person represented the true human being.
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Before that, people were not compared to each other but to the ideal (perfection of god, those we felt represented god) where all but a few were found lacking. They lived their lives pursuing a goal of heaven or enlightenment.
History shows this is not necessarily a better attitude, yet the shift made way for rather darker ideas of the worth of those who for whatever reason were deemed  abnormal or less.

Genetic Fitness

In the same century as this development Francis Galton,  Darwin’s cousin, whom Darwin disagreed with I might add, decided to apply Darwin’s studies of plants and animals to people.   His work was the root of the modern Eugencis movement and is still alive and well today.  At its core Eugenics puts forward the philosophy that certain traits are more ideal and make a person more genetically “fit.” Some have gone as far as trying to engineer the perfect society by encouraging child bearing among the “fit” and discouraging it through various means from propaganda to sterilization and murder.
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from wikipedia: The Black Stork is a 1917 motion picture written by and starring Harry J. Haiselden, the chief surgeon at the German-American Hospital in Chicago. The Black Stork is Haiselden’s fictionalized account of his eugenic infanticide of the child John Bollinger. The film was re-released in 1927 under the title Are You Fit to Marry?

 

The ideas of both Quetelet and Galton influence cultural thinking today

Even if we don’t necessarily agree with Galton, or know or believe that there really is a “norm” of humankind, we let these idea influence our thinking.

We compare ourselves and others against the perceived new view of perfection, the ideal traits, the cultural expectations we deem “normal.”

It still influences how we view people with disabilities and mental disorders and any others perceived to be “abnormal.”

You might be thinking at this point,

“but Amanda, Surely, there are typical people?”

Oh yes sure, but even “typical” people are nuanced individuals who don’t fit the mold of “normal” with perfection.

Also,  I don’t believe you can rate people’s worth as better or less based on measurement of any kind,

not in accomplishments or lack,

not in test scores,

not in contribution to economy

and certainly,

NOT in culturally preferred traits.

People are people.

No better or less than others.

The pursuit of happiness however one defines it shouldn’t be put on hold because we don’t meet an imaginary ideal.

 

 

Routine changes (Autism, flexibility and routines)

Morning dear readers,

I hope you all are staying warm.

New routines and changes have been an obstacle to writing of late, but I am hoping to work it back in.

Change and stress, but no meltdowns

I like routine to our day for its predictability. It leaves me without the stress of the unknown, my greatest anxiety producing obstacle. 

The National Autism Society (UK) states that:

“Many people with autism have a strong preference for routines and sameness. Routines often serve an important function – they introduce order, structure and predictability and help to manage anxiety. Because of this, it can be very distressing if a person’s routine is disrupted.”

I find myself best capable of dealing with changes if I have time to react and adapt. I think through possible ways plans can go awry.

Unexpected variables can throw my entire day.

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My children each deal with changes in routine differently. My child most upset by routine changes doesn’t have a diagnosis. She can feel distressed when she isn’t on schedule.

My child deemed most impaired  is generally not upset about changes. He has for example, a routine of getting a bath after lunch. He will remind and then insist on one, all the way to stripping to make a point. However, when we have something else to do I tell him and he copes.

Though there is stress, meltdowns  rarely occur I think mostly because:

  • our routine is set naturally to patterns that emerge rather than to trying to fit life into something preset
  • known changes are discussed ahead of time
  • unexpected things are explained
  • contingency plans are made and discussed
  • beyond a basic framework, our schedule is not rigid

What is our Daily Routine now?

Monday through Thursday we’ve settled into  a fairly predictable pattern.

I usually wake up without an alarm between 5 and 6am.

Then I spend time sitting and reading online articles.

I also drink vast quantities of tea in the morning.

While it seems wasteful, if it were raining this woman could open her mouth and let the tea run in.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Between 7 and 8:

  • shower
  • dress
  • walk the doggie
  • make sure the kids have breakfast

Between 8 and 9

  • make the littles dress/brush teeth
  • help Pete
  • make breakfast for Kevin and I
  • read more internet

Between 9 and 12

Aidan and Little Bee are for the most part independent, working from their own work schedules. For them I:

  • facilitate via discussion/questions/assisting with problems
  • provide resources, activities, labs
  • assign and check  reading/work
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Chess is an approved school time activity. The stuffed doggie won btw.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For the littles and Pete I shift back and forth between

  • lessons with the littles
  • one on one with Pete
  • lessons with all three at once
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Patrick works on math

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We are generally done by noon.

Noon to about 1:30 – 2

  • make lunch
  • eat lunch
  • walk the doggie
  • help with afternoon baths

From then on to about 6

If there isn’t some place to be I then work on writing, paid work, paperwork, etc.

From 6 – 9

  • make dinner
  • walk the doggie
  • clean something
  • chill with Kevin and kids

Lately Kevin and I have been watching an hour of Classic Doctor Who with Aidan and Bee.

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Instead of turned off, they’ve been rather fascinated by how low tech it is.

I get the littles to bed by nine, Pete and the rest by ten and I am not far behind.

Is routine helpful or harmful?

In the end I believe routine is a good stress reducing tool, but that it is necessary to learn other coping techniques for inevitable change and unexpected events.

Feel free to comment below about your need (or lack) of routine.  Do you find it helps or hinders?

 

Wonderfully informative video from Autism Ontario with Michael McCreary

from the video description:

This video, which features the incredible Michael McCreary, is a wonderful introduction to autism spectrum disorder. The video was created to support customer service professionals when they provide services or support to people with ASD; however the positive response from the general public has been overwhelming. This video is so accessible and entertaining, it offers something for everyone.

So please watch and share. We want everyone to understand autism and to see the potential!

A “Table ready” Tale of Two Autistics (How Montessori kicks ass)

Morning people.

As I was sitting last night researching what kind of hands on activities I could use while we learn about the moon next week, I thought about how the boys learn best, and the concept of being “table ready.”

I thought about ten years ago…

When my son with a classic autism diagnosis was in early intervention,  his therapists (skills, speech, and OT) worked with him on the floor. Or well, they tried to. Most of the sessions consisted of chasing him around the room trying to get him to attend. I suggested that if he were sitting they might have an easier time, but they insisted it wasn’t conducive to natural learning.

Pete would sit, rather happily, at meals strapped in to his booster seat. It looked like this:

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He insisted. If he wasn’t buckled, he stressed about it. One day after breakfast while he was still at the table I pulled out a puzzle and worked on it with him. I mimicked the language his therapists used. He not only did the puzzle, but he was engaged. I then added another two activities (like song games, shape sorter, story books) and then more. We got up to a half hour, then 45 minutes.  He loved it.

I learned about structured work tasks and how to use visual cues and schedules to show when work began and ended. We went from a “work” and “finished” basket to visual work schedule with velcro  numbers and a “finished” pocket for the numbers.  We covered fine motor, academics like counting and colors, sorting, stacking, matching and joint attention tasks.  He learned to point, but I never bothered with eye contact, its not really necessary for joint attention.  I bought some tasks, but usually made my own. As he aged and rapidly learned I had trouble finding /making materials with visual /hands on components and clear beginning and end of task that met his more complex learning needs.

Then he went to a small Montessori class run by our old church.  He was engaged, and fairly independent, though still in need of help staying on task and choosing work. The materials engaged him.  I began buying Montessori materials, teaching myself  and then him to use them, and then using them during his structured work time. They are wonderful.

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Peter works on long division with “the stamp game”

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I still fashion Peter’s learning activities into structured tasks, with written checklists to show completion. He doesnt mind working on the floor anymore. Here he is using a snap circuit to test conductivity.

He eventually started kindergarten in public school and my activities and materials ended up in storage.

My youngest son on the spectrum has a pdd-nos diagnosis and is much Pete’s opposite in some ways. His teachers would complain he wasn’t “table ready.”  They insisted in order to learn he had to be sitting straight in a chair at a desk or table.  This rarely happened. I refused to allow him to be restrained against his will, and refused when they mentioned trying to puppy train him into a chair using m&m rewards.  He also was best engaged when working with manipulatives, and balked at the pencil and paper activities that replaced the hands on work of his preschool years.

When the boys came home to learn, we went back to Montessori.  It still offers the structured tasks Peter needs, as well as hands on tactile activities for older students that keep Patrick engaged sans chocolate treats.

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montessori grammar symbols, nouns, verbs, and articles

PLUS  Montessorians have nothing whatever against working on the floor.  Learning can happen anywhere, and the need to spread out, to move, to wiggle, doesn’t impede it.  Patrick still does school work mostly on the floor, but as he ages he also is ok with sitting at a little table from time to time as well.

Patrick using grammar symbols, on the floor of all places

Patrick using grammar symbols to identify parts of speech, on the floor of all places.

Christmas with autistic children, EXPOSED (plus “survival’ tips)

“Life is lived moment-to-moment. In anticipation of the child’s next move. In despair. In fear of the future. This is autism,” These words were written by the founder of Autism speaks a couple of Decembers ago.  We are not supposed to be living, merely existing in an autistic void of despair and suffering.

She’s so right.

My heavens you would not believe what my autistic sons have been up to. It’s been truly harrowing.

One kid often doesn’t want to eat lunch, another takes forever to complete his school work, and yet another spends too much time on his I-pad.  One time he left waffles ON his I-pad.

Truly, this is darkness.

The worse of the worst, I stepped on a lego left out by one the other day.

(if you haven’t ever stepped on a lego barefoot, you do not know pain)

The most heinous behavior occurs during the Holidays.

I thought I’d share some surveillance photos of their nefarious activities of late.

They’ve been watching Christmas tv shows and reading Christmas books.

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They thought they could cover it up but no, they never put anything away.

Parents of typical children will just need to imagine what THATS like, I know, its hard.

They’ve also helped…

DECORATE!

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(gasp!) MAKE TREATS

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and managed to have a hand in our annual tradition of MAKING HOMEMADE ORNAMENTS.  (cue jump scare sound effects)

The nerve.

This time we made non-edible cinnamon ornaments to give as gifts to the grandparents.

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This autistic child just recently had to have more eye surgery and yet even he participated.

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I anticipate that their “next move” holiday wise, will be in the opening of presents.

Maybe we’ll see some lights displays first.

I suppose it isn’t suffering.

(hey, i still have cinnamon up my nose!)

My outlook on my children is not defined by the maybe or could haves or might have beens and certainly not by some standard of non-existent “normalcy” or narrow view of family life.

In all seriousness, I KNOW it can be hard

BUT

Celebrating the holidays with a child on the spectrum and everything going right is very possible, nay probable, with these tips in mind:

  1. Make sure your preparation activities include the child BUT Do not force involvement in activities like those mentioned above but keep them open for participation at the child’s level/desire to do so. One son used to only want to put two or three ornaments on the tree, now he stays till its finished. Example of doing it wrong: A parent inclined to force a child to sit on a strangers lap in a mall for a picture all in the name of tradition needs to re-evaluate their priorities.
  2. Have plenty of shows and books about the holiday on hand, include them in story time (an excellent small tradition to start if you haven’t already) and put them on the television. Maybe they’ll want them, maybe they won’t, but they’ll be there when and if they do. Doing it wrong: Forcing a child to sit through “Twas the night before Christmas” when they don’t want to. We’ve been having a “Christmas Carol” marathon. Kid participation has been spotty. I’m  not insulted.
  3. When going places keep hunger, tiredness, sensory issues and your child’s time limits in mind.  Doing it wrong: A child dragged to a crowded noisy mall for “fun” shopping for hours on end is set up for a meltdown. Another problem is in trying to visit everyone or visiting at homes where there is nothing to do. If you plan to stay long, bring distractions for the child. Some may say this is letting the child run the show, or spoiling. Forget that. This is respect and accommodation for your child’s differences, doing so will make it easier for both them and YOU.  I have to keep on eye on this for myself as well.
  4. Make family traditions for your holiday. It could be something religious like lighting the yule log, menora or advent wreath, a special meal,  or a tradition like ours, making homemade ornaments. Traditions tend to define us, and are remembered for lifetimes.

Whatever you celebrate, I hope you have a happy holiday.

Note: If you really truly are just “existing” or waiting for your child’s “next move” know that it doesn’t need to be that way. Life can be better.

 

 

 

 

The Whipping Scene (Including Autistic Children)

Kelvin Moon Loh is acting in “The King and I” on Broadway.

He recently shared an experience where an autistic child became upset during “the whipping scene,” and the condemnation from the audience that followed.

In a public facebook post he writes:

” I ask you- when did we as theater people, performers and audience members become so concerned with our own experience that we lose compassion for others?…”His voice pierced the theater. The audience started to rally against the mother and her child to be removed. I heard murmurs of “why would you bring a child like that to the theater?”. This is wrong. Plainly wrong.”

“Shows that have special performances for autistic audiences should be commended for their efforts to make theater inclusive for all audiences. I believe like Joseph Papp that theater is created for all people. I stand by that and also for once, I am in a show that is completely FAMILY FRIENDLY.

Click to read the entire post.

Inclusion in Public Spaces

I am so glad that Moon Loh took the time to share this experience and explain his disappointment.

Special shows designed for autistic audiences ARE wonderful, sometimes they are the only avenue for those with sensory sensitivities to enjoy the arts.
They are not “inclusive.”
Inclusive means mixing.
It means an autistic adult being able to attend any show.
It means an autistic child being accepted at  a show intended for families with children.
It means those with disability invited and welcomed into the public space because it is
OUR SPACE TOO.

The experience is Necessary

A typical problem is that parents do not feel as comfortable taking autistic kids into public spaces and so children lack experience in knowing how to behave/what is expected/what is going to happen which increases anxiety, something that is a constant already.
Without the practice, how can one learn the skill?
Parents also often do not feel comfortable because of reactions like the audience members even at so called “family friendly” events where extra noise and moving around are expected.
Already under stress, they can become isolated which can lead to depression, guilt, and anxiety.

What Parents can do

I cannot say whether a Broadway show with intense scenes was appropriate for this child in particular, or not, but  sometimes parents do not consider the child’s needs or sensitivities and pick events badly, or stay overlong.

Parents and other caregivers must ask themselves:
  • How much time, intensity and excitement can my child handle in an activity without  melting down?
  • Is this something my child will actually enjoy?
  • Are there any sensory sensitivity concerns and what can we do to prevent or lessen them?
  • What calming activities/strategies do we  have to decrease stress?
  • What is our exit strategy should we need to leave early?
  Even with careful planning, shit happens, things upset, and limits are reached.

What the public can do

Get used to it, and show some compassion.

The general non disabled/neurotypical public  still marginalizes disability.

They shamed that mother and child.
I hope she isn’t too hard on herself, or her child.
I hope this mom keeps going, keeps trying to take her son places, and keeps his limits and needs in mind.
I hope with efforts to increase autism acceptance, shit like this happens less.
I’ll leave you with a last quote from Joh:
“The King and I on Broadway is just that- FAMILY FRIENDLY- and that means entire families- with disabilities or not. Not only for special performances but for all performances. A night at the theater is special on any night you get to go.”
 

Convention Ramble (Neurodiversity in Sherlock)

Morning everyone,

This past weekend I was part of the Neurodiversity in Sherlock Holmes panel at “GridLOCK DC” a Washington D.C area Sherlock Holmes convention.

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Many things happened.

Some were fun.

Some were amazing.

I will get to the best bit at some point in the future but you’ll have to wait on that.

Today we’re talkin bout the panel.

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 I’m on the right here, mid sentence about…something.

Topics discussed were both about autism in general, and the tendency of many to “read” Sherlock Holmes as being neurodivergent in some manner. Labeling Sherlock Holmes is problematic to say the least, but it cannot be denied that many people relate to his differences.

We talked generalities such as:

  • Functioning labels, definition and connotation
  • Executive Functioning
  • Autism Empathy Myth (we’re not sociopaths thank you)
  • Definitions of  “neurodiversity” and “neurodivergence”

And more Sherlock Holmes specific:

  • Character’s divergent behaviors (and of other characters)
  • Troubling statements made by a certain actor and that being considered a good actor or a good person doesn’t make one an authority on everything
  • BBC Sherlock’s entire “high functioning sociopath” silliness
  • The ability to make Sherlock Holmes into anything we like (as he is, really, not a well developed character, its easy to mold him into whatever we want/need)
  • Problems with labeling the character with specific disorders

It went well.

Had a nice mention on “Art in the Blood” a Sherlockian fan/forum site:

Amanda Mills is becoming one of my favorite presenters. She was one of the two presenters on a powerful panel called “Neurodiversity in Sherlock.” This might have been my favorite panel (even including the two in which I participated!). I really appreciate the way Mills approaches subjects that can be confusing or even unknown to people, such as autism and other examples of neurodiversity, such as bipolar disorder and sociopathy. She speaks clearly, concisely and with authority, but she is quick to contextualize her responses with relevant peer-reviewed data and the caveat that she can only speak for her own experiences. As an audience member, I felt very welcomed to ask questions and contribute ideas (mostly I just clapped and laughed and hummmmmed in interest).

So that is really good.

I felt though, somewhat discouraged concerning having to explain the difference between theory of mind (a deficit of everyone on this planet) and emotional empathy to an otherwise knowledgeable and accepting crowd. It’s not their fault, but still, its disheartening.

I touched on that quite a bit for Quora, but don’t believe its been delved into too much on this blog.

It needs covering.

Let’s do that.