Issy Stapleton and Autistic Victim Blaming

I have some news concerning the van, different projects, and some home school stuff, but today wont be about that.

Today I’m blogging for attempted murder victim Issy Stapleton.

When parents kill, or attempt to kill their children, there is justifiable outrage. Parents should want the best for their children and do their best to love, provide for, and cherish them. We also know it doesn’t always happen, and those a child counts on for care are capable of abuse, neglect, and murder.

I think of children lost to neglect and murder.
I think of Caylee Anthony, I think Zara Baker, I think of, most recently, the Jones children.

Then there are the autistic children.

I think of Alex Spourdalakis.

Alex S with no hype

I think of Jude Mirra.


I think of Issy Stapleton.


In all three cases, their mothers decided for themselves their lives had no value. Unlike Alex and Jude, Issy Stapleton survived the attempt on her life.

Have you heard of Issy?

Issy’s mother was an autism blogger who regularly wrote on her blog how horrible horrible the nasty autism monster was and what a burden she felt raising her daughter was (in blog and through video).

She got sympathy.

She got pity.

She got attention.

She continues to gain sympathy, pity, and attention as she sits behind bars after attempting to kill Issy by placing charcoal grills into the van in which Issy was strapped.

This Monday and Tuesday, (9/15 and 9/16) “Dr. Phil” will air a jailhouse interview with Issy’s mother.

Many times when disability is a factor, media portrays the murder a bit differently.

There is sympathy for the caregiver “desperate, or “driven to the edge.”

There is discussion of the disability and always a connection with lack of services, as if, it somehow explains what has happened.

We do not hear much about the victim except how difficult it was to care for them, as if somehow, it makes them less human.

This attitude is not just among the media, it is reflected in the courts often going easy on perpetrators who commit crimes against the disabled.

In Issy’s case, even though her mother intended to murder her, she will only be held accountable for “first degree child abuse.”

Issy Stapleton is a victim.

There is NO EXCUSE, NONE for attempting to murder your child.

No one offers sympathy for the murderers of badly behaved non-disabled kids.

We don’t say to ourselves, well, they were a real handful… every ones a victim. NO.

It is irresponsible of the media to paint the mother as a victim.

It is irresponsible to encourage the victim blaming of Issy, not just for Miss Stapleton,

but also for EVERY OTHER disabled child and adult.

Spreading this hateful messages affects how the disabled viewed, not just in terms of violent crime against us,

but our worth as people as a whole.

It projects us as being less and so the idea that it is not as a bad a thing as it could or would be.

If it is the aim of the media to improve the lives of disabled children, we must be acknowledged as full members of society with no excuses or reasoning for abusing, neglecting, or murdering us.

Monday and Tuesday I am participating in an organized effort to

Tell Doctor Phil and the Media that Issy Stapleton is the VICTIM



4 thoughts on “Issy Stapleton and Autistic Victim Blaming

  1. irini112014 says:

    Reblogged this on Seedling and commented:
    This is a heart wrenching reminder that people intentionally do bad things, and there are things we can do about them. Change our minds! This little girl’s mother is not the victim and should not be tried as such, she should be tried as a mother who attempted to murder her daughter. My thoughts are with Issy, may she be able to somehow rise above this.

  2. agrajag says:

    Truly horrible. I have some sympathy for parents who are overwhelmed and unable to cope sometimes, I think all parents have experienced that it can be very hard sometimes.

    But I have zero sympathy for parents who harm their children in response. There are resources available that can help, if they are unable to cope by themselves. Asking for help is not a bad or a shameful thing to do. But hurting a innocent child that depends on you is despicable. And that remains equally true no matter what diagnosis a child may have.

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